What do you really want for your children?
Popular author and motivational speaker Wayne Dyer in What Do You Really Want for Your Children says, “Parents want their children to value themselves, to be self-reliant and independent, to take risks, to be free from stress and anxiety, to live peaceful lives, to celebrate present moments, to value wellness and creativity, and to feel a sense of purpose.”
Most parents are practical and realistic with what they want for their children. They don’t usually envision their children being rich or famous, having perfect marriages, or living in beautiful homes. Yet they want their children to develop a sense of tranquillity and contentedness, with the capacity to handle life’s challenges without being overwhelmed.
Concisely stated, most parents want their children to develop the ability to enjoy life as high-functioning, positive, fulfilled adults. But is this what God wants for our children?
Consider these words, “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth” 3 John 4. Note the phrase “no greater joy.” Nothing should make us happier than knowing our children are journeying in the way of Truth!
Nothing should make us happier than knowing our children are journeying in the way of Truth! Share on XChap Bettis, author of the Disciple Making Parent says, “’Surrounding us are parents making superhuman sacrifices for their children’s soccer practice, hockey practice, academic progress, and music lessons. We can be tempted to follow them. While we may give lip service to discipling our children, the reality comes when we start prioritizing activities … Here lies the crux of the matter … Each parent must decide whether he is more concerned that his child be accepted into Heaven, or ‘Harvard’. We all have ‘Harvards’—those worldly successes we desire for our children, but the question remains, ‘Which is most important to me?’ Each parent must finish the sentence ‘I have no greater joy than …’”
So, what brings you the greatest happiness concerning your children? To answer the question honestly, you must examine your heart. Orienting our parenting begins not with our children’s hearts but with our own hearts.
Input results in output.
The things in your heart will overflow into your children’s hearts. If you value intellectual development, your children will more than likely be academically inclined. If you prioritize physical development, your children will probably enjoy sports. And if you focus on social development, your children will usually like spending time with people.
There are many worthwhile goals and helpful activities for our children. Let’s not settle for what’s good; let’s aim to give them the best. More than anything, our children need truth – the living Truth – Jesus Christ. He alone is all satisfying and all-sufficient. While we should pay attention to our children’s emotional, intellectual and physical well-being, the focus of our parenting should be their spiritual development. That is, our number one priority should be to help our children (with the empowering of the Holy Spirit) to love, know, serve, honour, and treasure Jesus above all else (cf. Matthew 22:37, Joshua 24:15b).
Our number one priority should be to help our children (with the empowering of the Holy Spirit) to love, know, serve, honour, and treasure Jesus above all else. Share on XIf children’s spiritual formation is going to be our main concern, we must order our time and energies accordingly. One way to do this is to establish daily interactive family times to discuss God’s Word, pray, sing praises, and seek the Lord. The progression should be heart-to-head-to-hand (I’ve written about this in Heart, Head, Hands). We must help children connect with the Living Truth (Jesus), contemplate the written truth (Bible), and actively live the truth.
What’s in your heart? If your overriding desire is to “… gain Christ and be found in him” (Philippians 3:8-9), then your children will almost certainly want to embrace Jesus and be embraced by Him.
God gave us children to draw them to Him. If we’re not doing that, all the mother-daughter outings, dad-son quests, sports, clubs, recitals, parties, and family adventures are just a waste of time.
Orienting our parenting … what do you really want for your children?
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Summary
The article explores the desires parents commonly have for their children, such as happiness, self-reliance, and the ability to handle life’s challenges. While many parents focus on their children’s emotional, intellectual, and physical well-being, the article argues that the most important priority should be their spiritual development, helping them know, love, and serve Jesus Christ. The article highlights that parenting should be guided by what parents value most deeply, focusing on nurturing children’s relationship with God. Ultimately, the article encourages parents to prioritize their children’s spiritual growth and make it central to their parenting approach.
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